Aspect | Positive Experience | Negative Experience | Impact On Self Worth And Values | How to Challenge Negative Beliefs | Improving Self Worth | Assessing Realistic Self Worth |
Self-talk | Kind, encouraging inner voice. Focus on strengths and potential for growth. | Harsh inner critic, constant negativity, focusing on flaws | Beliefs: "I can do this" vs. "I'm not good enough." Values: Self-compassion vs. Perfectionism, fear of vulnerability | Mindfulness of your self-talk: Notice the tone and content. Replace harshness with a supportive friend's voice. Practice neutral statements when overly judgemental. | Affirmations that focus on effort & progress. Regular self-compassion journaling. Therapy to work on the root of harsh self-critique. | What are some things I say to myself that are truly kind? What areas do I offer myself compassion? Where is it difficult? |
Value System | Values align with personal ethics, bring fulfillment, and motivate positive action. | Values adopted without reflection, or based on external pressure, causing inner conflict. | Beliefs: "I'm living in alignment with what matters" vs. "I don't even know what I truly value" Values: Authenticity, integrity vs. People-pleasing, sacrificing self for "shoulds" | Values exploration exercises: What brings you joy and meaning? Examine conflicts: Do my actions align with values? Reframe values as guiding principles, not rigid rules. | Prioritize actions that align with values, even small ones. Reflect on decisions: Did they bring you closer to living your values? Therapy to clarify or rebuild core values. | Where do I feel most authentic and aligned in my actions? Are there areas where I consistently compromise my values? |
Self-awareness | Realistic understanding of strengths, weaknesses, and emotional patterns. Open to feedback & self-improvement | Lack of self-awareness, limited insight into behaviors, blaming others for problems. | Beliefs: "I'm always learning and growing "vs. "This is just how I am, I can't change." Values: Personal Growth vs. Stagnation, defensiveness. | Mindfulness practice to notice thought patterns & reactions. Seek honest feedback from trusted others. Journal to reflect on recurring themes in your experiences. | Embrace the process of self-discovery, even the messy parts. Acknowledge flaws, focusing on what you can control. Therapy to untangle complex patterns and blind spots. | What strengths am I genuinely confident in? Are there feedback themes from others that I need to explore? |